kossai | some thoughts on physical nonhumanity , autonomy , and respect

crosspost from tumblr - original post .

when kossai talk about physical faeriehood , certain type of concern trolls tend to assume things like :

that kossai can and will attempt to leap off buildings for flight ,
that kossai can and will eat inedible substances under guise of faerie foods ,
that kossai feel immune to dangers and will rush ahead anywhere without safety precautions ,
that kossai claim to fully understand and speak with theriform animals ,
and whatever else these people associate with lack of health .

but kossai never actually claim these things anywhere , and do not work to encourage these thoughts in others - if anything , try very best to spread awareness of discernment . all which say is that , by religious means , kossai is physically faerie .
neither do kossai have some intent on " convert " anyone to physical nonhumanity - there is nothing which kossai can teach , can only talk about personal experiences . kossai do not care about how many identify as physically nonhuman , so long as each one feel comfort and safety in label .

but there is another secret to this . which is that , even if someone sincerely hold those claims in start of post ? refusal of autonomy and respect will not erase these .
if anything , that treatment is likely to make worse - outcast and isolation is nightmare for anyone , and people who already struggle with grip will struggle even more if people do not give true kindness , if people treat as some poor woobie little thing which need help , or else some dangerous predator who only want to steal away and somehow convert others in .

kossai understand kneejerk reaction to want for folks to not get hurt , absolutely , entirely , forever . but shame and isolation will never fix delusions , eating disorders , self harm , anything .
yes , as much as understand desire to say to someone that flight is impossible , and glass is very much inedible ... maybe , unless this become immediate danger and have no choice but to restrain for safety , hold tongue on that .
( which , is also very unlikely to be responsibility and position as stranger online . )

let others have space to talk about experiences , and do not make assumptions about how this identity and this experience manifest . even in those who struggle massively , this basic respect and kindness can hold off some of worst effects and spirals .
and overall , give others more credit . just because personally experience physical nonhumanity as torturous delusion , this will not guarantee true for everyone else .

not all folk with delusions experience this as something which destroy all semblance of awareness and cognition . some folk with delusions even have sign off of doctors to embrace identity , just perhaps with some extra mindfulness .
and not all folk with physical identity , or physical aspects in identity , actually experience as delusion to start with . some things , even weird things , can be just ... religion , spirituality , or dare say even quirk . delusion is not just something weird and hard to understand .

but again , even if experience as worst of worst delusion : give respect and kindness . do not shame . do not say " get help and leave this community " .
and if this is personally impossible , for whatever reason that might be , then just block , ignore , and move on .