about aesthetic aids

wish could have more adult fidget toys , and sure , know some really fancy pretty things out there . but what really mean by this is :

• common fidget toys like pop its and chewables with prettier , more adult design choices - so can choose to not stand out so badly ,
• fidget toys with better construction to fit adult proportions comfortably ,
• fidget toys with better construction to withstand long term use ,
• overall de-associate fidget as child only thing to which need divide age groups .

and sort of link to this :
not that disability aids need to be fashion accessories , but wonder how much more people would accept need aids if many more customisable . not just for kids , but adults too .

something kossai feel is ... well , people will stare because of this ... should at least be pretty thing , so that everything stand out and express together rather than " clash " .
some people can happily accept this clash and make as part of self image , yes .
but others only reluctantly accept this clash - not happy in own skin anymore , like part of that expression taken away .
and others deny clash so hard , that will not even use these important aids , and get hurt .

not think anyone is wrong for how feel about this clash ! expression is important - not everyone feel comfortable with same expressions .
in some part , yes , there is general fear of look disabled - but ... kossai do not fear this , yet still feel need for this expression . because , well , expression is in nature of many people , even ones who do not think so .