what even is stim ?

[kossai]

understand why important to have word and category like stim but just ... start to dislike . feel as if people who use , use in limit way that shut out others . stim is happy thing , can have " favourite " one , can stop if someone really nicely ask to stop , no one ever stim in ways that hurt .

all of these lie , or at least not full truth . but spread so far that now just have reaction to that word ... and nothing else is right either .

have different words like yell , shout , scream , cry , laugh , jeer - all these to express different things one can do with voice , and emotional reasons why . but stim is supposed to be strong enough to carry just as big range of emotions , reasons , and actions ?
best solution is to just , clarify by adjective , angry stim or scream stim … at that point , is there reason to say stim ? or do that separate and other this idea of stim as some unnatural expression and mechanism ?

if someone else is angry and kick couch , is that angry stim ? maybe . scream ? also maybe . but these also things many people will do ... so is stim more useful than simply expression ?
some people rock because this comfort brain . some people , because this lessen chronic pain . is one stim and one not , because of reason ? why need to put in category for origin ?

all sorts of people do all sorts of things to express , to focus , to ground from overwhelm . people want to make this idea normal , for all good that could possibly do ( not much - " normal " is never good enough , neither is " wholly good and loveable " ) but then inconsistent in how apply , to who , when , why .

kossai rock , wave and flap hands around , hit things sometimes . each one label as stim , as behaviour , as something … other . and even communities' use for stim seem to reinforce this , not subvert .
but each one is expression , natural way to cope , or just to be . very few people question someone yell words when angry , but become other when yell sounds instead ? people will label stomp and flail as normal if happen during particular emotions , and as special behaviour when done otherwise ? X reaction is normal in private , but not when in public ?

is that really something worth reinforce through different words and names , if aim to have people accept ?
" well , everyone stims " - but this is imprecise word that encompass , again , many reasons , many emotions , many actions . and community use often suggest that stim is something separate from typical , anyway , that refer to this but not that when both apparently fit definition .