thoughts on transabled identities
Nov. 26th, 2024 04:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kossaiahh right , time to fight off transabled with sticks . or , well , preemptively block some anyway .
transabled is sort of fascinate in that can understand where many of thoughts come from ... but almost always wrong way to handle those feelings .
this is rant about that .
some say that transabled start as BIID word , not really sure on that , but even then ... dysphoria of BIID is something that is tricky to handle , and current transabled community is in line with far more than just that , under radqueer umbrella - even up to pro contact pedophilia , and proud self identify as abusers or worse .
kossai can not agree that this is great community to be in , even if someone try to strictly stay to transabled side - which almost all do not .
when come to kin who have past memories and experiences , or even headmates with current ones in headspace ... that is still different from here and now external experiences .
memories and feelings of these experiences come through filters and biases of current brain - and very often will not have true common ground with people that currently experience . to try to pass off and identify as current is cruelty to those people .
very true that names of disorders is just that , names which people make up to try and describe experiences . but still not harmless in those communities to just adopt without consideration .
this is problem which kossai have with nonverbal - so many people adopt and spread wrong information , that word feel functionally useless to say online anymore , because people will not understand what really mean . many people treat this as if only temporary state , and still look down on anyone who actually can not speak .
and what find really sad is that many of these people seem to actually have these " goal disorders " - just happen to also be in circumstances that make diagnosis hard if not impossible , like dismiss because of gender or race , or brush over traumas as something normal if not good .
but do not need names for experiences to still be real . do not need to call this as trans anything . if anything , sometimes should not try to make public at all for safety reasons ! and that is OK . not ban from search up ways to cope just because not publicly use word .
very much also , think there is this feeling that more severe name and presentation will make people to give more care and respect .
unfortunately truth is that if people neglect needs with level 1 autism , would neglect even fucking more if was actually level 2 or level 3 . if can not respect when sometimes lose ability to speak , would viscerally hate if permanently stop .
story time : this was not from transabled person , but from young system kossai once encounter .
this system unfortunately try to come out to parents as plural , in hopes would accept and allow therapy . parents did not .
this trigger front of persecutor , who cut apart system beloved childhood toy , under assumption that this cruel action - one which system would never voluntarily do under normal circumstances - would force parents to admit and accept plurality .
but that did not help . this only anger parents more , who see that child was so " desperate for attention " as to ruin something so precious , and double down on refusal .
people who do not want to believe , to offer love and care and respect , simply will not . no matter what proof there is , no matter how severely that seem to present .
and these false presentations , exaggerations , do come around to hurt people . most of all , think could say these things hurt self . experiences do not get to be real unless strictly name , and even then , layer names on top , under veil of want and transition rather than accept as reality .
all which tie into larger communities that encourage some of worst of worst behaviours .
in those ways , do have sympathy for many of these people . but just can not handle that kind of interaction , of people who would refer to problems of kossai and friends with jealousy , who would act as if understand equally or better , so , prefer to block .
transabled is sort of fascinate in that can understand where many of thoughts come from ... but almost always wrong way to handle those feelings .
this is rant about that .
some say that transabled start as BIID word , not really sure on that , but even then ... dysphoria of BIID is something that is tricky to handle , and current transabled community is in line with far more than just that , under radqueer umbrella - even up to pro contact pedophilia , and proud self identify as abusers or worse .
kossai can not agree that this is great community to be in , even if someone try to strictly stay to transabled side - which almost all do not .
when come to kin who have past memories and experiences , or even headmates with current ones in headspace ... that is still different from here and now external experiences .
memories and feelings of these experiences come through filters and biases of current brain - and very often will not have true common ground with people that currently experience . to try to pass off and identify as current is cruelty to those people .
very true that names of disorders is just that , names which people make up to try and describe experiences . but still not harmless in those communities to just adopt without consideration .
this is problem which kossai have with nonverbal - so many people adopt and spread wrong information , that word feel functionally useless to say online anymore , because people will not understand what really mean . many people treat this as if only temporary state , and still look down on anyone who actually can not speak .
and what find really sad is that many of these people seem to actually have these " goal disorders " - just happen to also be in circumstances that make diagnosis hard if not impossible , like dismiss because of gender or race , or brush over traumas as something normal if not good .
but do not need names for experiences to still be real . do not need to call this as trans anything . if anything , sometimes should not try to make public at all for safety reasons ! and that is OK . not ban from search up ways to cope just because not publicly use word .
very much also , think there is this feeling that more severe name and presentation will make people to give more care and respect .
unfortunately truth is that if people neglect needs with level 1 autism , would neglect even fucking more if was actually level 2 or level 3 . if can not respect when sometimes lose ability to speak , would viscerally hate if permanently stop .
story time : this was not from transabled person , but from young system kossai once encounter .
this system unfortunately try to come out to parents as plural , in hopes would accept and allow therapy . parents did not .
this trigger front of persecutor , who cut apart system beloved childhood toy , under assumption that this cruel action - one which system would never voluntarily do under normal circumstances - would force parents to admit and accept plurality .
but that did not help . this only anger parents more , who see that child was so " desperate for attention " as to ruin something so precious , and double down on refusal .
people who do not want to believe , to offer love and care and respect , simply will not . no matter what proof there is , no matter how severely that seem to present .
and these false presentations , exaggerations , do come around to hurt people . most of all , think could say these things hurt self . experiences do not get to be real unless strictly name , and even then , layer names on top , under veil of want and transition rather than accept as reality .
all which tie into larger communities that encourage some of worst of worst behaviours .
in those ways , do have sympathy for many of these people . but just can not handle that kind of interaction , of people who would refer to problems of kossai and friends with jealousy , who would act as if understand equally or better , so , prefer to block .
