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kossaitumblr subject to more radqueer nonsense . time for another thought post .
in terms of radqueer and trans-ID , outsiders often see trans-appearance and trans-personality as least harmful . kossai understand where come from , but still think big problem .
take something like trans-redhead for example . on surface , this is expression of desire for red hair . and nothing is wrong in want red hair , hair dye is not immoral !
but that trans prefix is what kossai believe to be problem . nothing can be simple thought or want , in this kind of community . everything need label and flag , every desire is equally valid dysphoria , every step to change something is transition .
dare say this is just another way to pathologise , and even to avoid critical thought about things like beauty standards and insecurities .
if someone grow up with people who bully for big nose , should that person really take pride in desire for small nose ?
trans-ID communities would argue yes : that desire for small nose is legitimate , and must validate without second thought . there is no rhyme , room , or reason to question why this desire might exist , or to help reframe perspective and insecurity ! only fair choice here is to encourage transition - in this case , unnecessary cosmetic nose job , something which could go wrong and hurt further , and might easily grow to regret .
find trans-personality to be similar in some ways . see things like trans-shy or trans-extrovert - these people have picture of personality which want , but just can not match up .
this can have many reasons - trauma is big one , of course . hard to get out and dance when trauma say clubs will forever be unsafe . other times , might have some kind of medical problem or neurodivergence which need address , something which need accomodation in order to live how want .
do people acknowledge this ?
... no , of course not . will pass around " transition tips " - trans-shy person should just squirm and blush rather than talk to anyone normally , never mind that this trans-shy person in question have OCD compulsions to voice everything , or easily dissociate unless talk , or otherwise . these kind of situation-agnostic tips can absolutely worsen mental state of people who need help !
personality is not overnight change . have to really understand what want - really , truly understand ! - and then also understand what get in way of that . because , if nothing was in way , then would not need to look for " transition tips " , or even think about this as change at all . would already easily be that way .
overall , personality and appearance both can change , nothing wrong with that . but still think that transition - and transness at all - is very much wrong framework to apply . this kind of thought can do much more hurt than good , even on apparently " harmless " labels like these .
in terms of radqueer and trans-ID , outsiders often see trans-appearance and trans-personality as least harmful . kossai understand where come from , but still think big problem .
take something like trans-redhead for example . on surface , this is expression of desire for red hair . and nothing is wrong in want red hair , hair dye is not immoral !
but that trans prefix is what kossai believe to be problem . nothing can be simple thought or want , in this kind of community . everything need label and flag , every desire is equally valid dysphoria , every step to change something is transition .
dare say this is just another way to pathologise , and even to avoid critical thought about things like beauty standards and insecurities .
if someone grow up with people who bully for big nose , should that person really take pride in desire for small nose ?
trans-ID communities would argue yes : that desire for small nose is legitimate , and must validate without second thought . there is no rhyme , room , or reason to question why this desire might exist , or to help reframe perspective and insecurity ! only fair choice here is to encourage transition - in this case , unnecessary cosmetic nose job , something which could go wrong and hurt further , and might easily grow to regret .
find trans-personality to be similar in some ways . see things like trans-shy or trans-extrovert - these people have picture of personality which want , but just can not match up .
this can have many reasons - trauma is big one , of course . hard to get out and dance when trauma say clubs will forever be unsafe . other times , might have some kind of medical problem or neurodivergence which need address , something which need accomodation in order to live how want .
do people acknowledge this ?
... no , of course not . will pass around " transition tips " - trans-shy person should just squirm and blush rather than talk to anyone normally , never mind that this trans-shy person in question have OCD compulsions to voice everything , or easily dissociate unless talk , or otherwise . these kind of situation-agnostic tips can absolutely worsen mental state of people who need help !
personality is not overnight change . have to really understand what want - really , truly understand ! - and then also understand what get in way of that . because , if nothing was in way , then would not need to look for " transition tips " , or even think about this as change at all . would already easily be that way .
overall , personality and appearance both can change , nothing wrong with that . but still think that transition - and transness at all - is very much wrong framework to apply . this kind of thought can do much more hurt than good , even on apparently " harmless " labels like these .
