thoughts on thoughts indeed
Jan. 9th, 2025 10:36 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kossaisometimes just so ... so baffle and off guard when pillars of thought essential to kossai seem to be so uncommon or even apparently backwards to others .
like , some people really take that is harmful at face value and not examine further ? obviously not always appropriate in moment to hash this out , and unfortunately that make sometimes kind of hard . but think vital to try and understand why something might be harmful .
kossai learn of radqueer and decide would deep dive to understand where , why , and how these things hurt - want to look beyond obvious kneejerk reactions , because those kneejerk reactions alone do not make points very well . and because of these deep dives , kossai feel as if understand other things better .
and sometimes , what another person deem harmful is only half true , if even true at all . often this come as misguide attempt to protect someone or something , but so easily backfire instead - like pretty much anything about " syscourse " . really good to be able to listen to perspectives , and not just accept everything as is .
not to mention how often something weird will have absolutely no impact on life of anyone but that one weird person . so what if giant rainbow tattoos , or hair up in spikes , or wear tail - will very often never have to think about that person ever again in life , so why make fuss ? fuss will only cement in mind and let feelings fester . learn to let go .
or like , rights to autonomy and dignity of risk for everyone . yes , even those messy old " crazy " people who seem to know nothing . theoretically anyone can be hurt by theoretically anything . people can jam fingers in doors on accident . people can choke on water . people can choke on spit .
but removal of autonomy will never fix any of those problems . even if transport person into room with no doors , could still stub toes on furniture . even if remove furniture , could still slip on rug . and if there was no rug , no furniture , nothing to do at all , that person would lose mind and start to self harm just to have something .
pain is awful . tragedy is awful . but to strip autonomy , dignity , and rights away is not real solution . yet some people look at kossai like head is on backwards and say that this is some grand anti-recovery stance , and basically personally wish death on those poor crazies .
officially do not care to label many " stances " , in all honesty . what care for most is to make world in which everyone can be happiest self , and have access to things which bring safety , comfort , and peace . for some people that will be therapies and medications ! for others that will not be . some people might choose to trust someone with part or all of life choices , others will not . unless there is imminent danger or distress , why should anyone complain ?
can understand how these would be backwards in " mainstream " society . but what really can not understand is when peers think these things backwards . when binary trans people mock nonbinary ones , or when alterhumans argue kossai is delusional and dangerous without listen to any of points , or point fingers that some inconsequential kink like feet is gross and corrupt and blah blah blah .
like what ? where did this come from ? this is not better , this is just same shit at new people - which will only ever hurt everyone , self as well . people who want to take rights away will not be permissive for those who pass tests . to be outside norm is to already fail tests , no matter what . gah .
like , some people really take that is harmful at face value and not examine further ? obviously not always appropriate in moment to hash this out , and unfortunately that make sometimes kind of hard . but think vital to try and understand why something might be harmful .
kossai learn of radqueer and decide would deep dive to understand where , why , and how these things hurt - want to look beyond obvious kneejerk reactions , because those kneejerk reactions alone do not make points very well . and because of these deep dives , kossai feel as if understand other things better .
and sometimes , what another person deem harmful is only half true , if even true at all . often this come as misguide attempt to protect someone or something , but so easily backfire instead - like pretty much anything about " syscourse " . really good to be able to listen to perspectives , and not just accept everything as is .
not to mention how often something weird will have absolutely no impact on life of anyone but that one weird person . so what if giant rainbow tattoos , or hair up in spikes , or wear tail - will very often never have to think about that person ever again in life , so why make fuss ? fuss will only cement in mind and let feelings fester . learn to let go .
or like , rights to autonomy and dignity of risk for everyone . yes , even those messy old " crazy " people who seem to know nothing . theoretically anyone can be hurt by theoretically anything . people can jam fingers in doors on accident . people can choke on water . people can choke on spit .
but removal of autonomy will never fix any of those problems . even if transport person into room with no doors , could still stub toes on furniture . even if remove furniture , could still slip on rug . and if there was no rug , no furniture , nothing to do at all , that person would lose mind and start to self harm just to have something .
pain is awful . tragedy is awful . but to strip autonomy , dignity , and rights away is not real solution . yet some people look at kossai like head is on backwards and say that this is some grand anti-recovery stance , and basically personally wish death on those poor crazies .
officially do not care to label many " stances " , in all honesty . what care for most is to make world in which everyone can be happiest self , and have access to things which bring safety , comfort , and peace . for some people that will be therapies and medications ! for others that will not be . some people might choose to trust someone with part or all of life choices , others will not . unless there is imminent danger or distress , why should anyone complain ?
can understand how these would be backwards in " mainstream " society . but what really can not understand is when peers think these things backwards . when binary trans people mock nonbinary ones , or when alterhumans argue kossai is delusional and dangerous without listen to any of points , or point fingers that some inconsequential kink like feet is gross and corrupt and blah blah blah .
like what ? where did this come from ? this is not better , this is just same shit at new people - which will only ever hurt everyone , self as well . people who want to take rights away will not be permissive for those who pass tests . to be outside norm is to already fail tests , no matter what . gah .
