headmate builders
Feb. 28th, 2025 09:55 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kossaikossai come across these ... " headmate builder " blogs sometimes . now not entirely sure , but this at least seem like come from radqueer community because so many specifically accept and include radqueer aspects , but some recent ones also pop up anti-radqueer .
... not sure what to feel about this . so , idea is that send in some kind of prompt - caretaker with XYZ name and face claim , for example - and then will give literal list of possible identity aspects to fill this person out .
obviously this is intend for crowd who intentionally build up system , for whatever reasons might have . in theory could also see use to help those with headmates who struggle in find self , who start to split , or otherwise need some kind of help to stabilise identity .
but then ... why outsource that to someone else ? why not work on exploration , and allow this person - or what will become this person - to give direct input ? this is not as if give labels in answer to " what would name for this experience be ? " but instead assign experiences outright , usually on basis of aesthetics and that tiny prompt .
maybe that is also part of hangup - aesthetics . long , long do kossai loathe how aesthetics become so important to point of perfect curation and presentation , that actual life and identity is worth suppression . nothing inherently wrong with aesthetic enjoyments , but when these things become identity ? can be so hard to get away and find freedom - imagine even moreso for headmates who exist to basically embody .
... not sure what to feel about this . so , idea is that send in some kind of prompt - caretaker with XYZ name and face claim , for example - and then will give literal list of possible identity aspects to fill this person out .
obviously this is intend for crowd who intentionally build up system , for whatever reasons might have . in theory could also see use to help those with headmates who struggle in find self , who start to split , or otherwise need some kind of help to stabilise identity .
but then ... why outsource that to someone else ? why not work on exploration , and allow this person - or what will become this person - to give direct input ? this is not as if give labels in answer to " what would name for this experience be ? " but instead assign experiences outright , usually on basis of aesthetics and that tiny prompt .
maybe that is also part of hangup - aesthetics . long , long do kossai loathe how aesthetics become so important to point of perfect curation and presentation , that actual life and identity is worth suppression . nothing inherently wrong with aesthetic enjoyments , but when these things become identity ? can be so hard to get away and find freedom - imagine even moreso for headmates who exist to basically embody .