on cringe reactions

sometimes kossai worry that still have too much " cringe reaction " about things , even if never externalise and make problem for anyone , then actually come across people who make cringe into personality and think . wow . well at least not live like that anymore .
because , well , did when younger - was hard escape people cringe even if not necessarily use that word yet , and hard not take lessons from this .
but these days always ask ... do this hurt anyone ? is this really important enough to make problem about ? what could be reason for something like this ?

and 10 out of 10 times , will shrug and not say anything . even if think that might feel better to cringe , know would not actually help . people cringe to prove better than others in some way - to prove that harmless but weird thing is somehow bad , to prove that not like those people with schizophrenia , severe cognitive disability , or other " undesirables " , and so on .
in other words , to externalise cringe and make problem for people is only to keep cycle alive . cringe is just another tool in hurt others , in some cases another small tool that contribute to outcast and oppress , and in fairer world ... would not be near as much problem . there would not be " look at this person act weird " because act weird would be alien concept , would simply accept variance of people as good and just truth .

so . cringe is useless at best and deeply hurtful at worst . if spend any time at all with people who just love to go cringe and now embed reaction in mind , then just try think carefully , more kindly about people , and not make problem for people on that basis . if there really is problem , look at problem , not at weird cringe factor .

thoughts on affirmations and subliminals

think hard not to overanalyse and overthink about this stuff , but also think might help despite try and overthink less ? so like ... affirmations , and especially audio subliminals .

think affirmation can be one part in puzzle , but need to first understand what want and how . giant wing affirmations can not change nature of human body , and if go in with this expectation ... will be disappoint and discourage .
also not think just as simple as " think about something will guarantee that thing " - thought alone is not some universally strong power , and , unfortunately have experience with ways people can use this to hurt and suppress others , make cult like environments if not outright cults . so , more than just think good things - need think with intent and focus .

but affirmations can be way to channel desire into more actionable energy and magic . in other words , very useful with low skill set and knowledge , not much time and material to invest , or otherwise need something quiet and secret .
there is also something to say for , in specific , " fake until make " positive self talk . if repeat everyday that look beautiful and people happy to have as friend ... then even if nothing at all change , might start to feel true .

but again . still some barriers do and will always exist - can not just , overrule things about physical world , or expect drastic change like wings or tail . unfortunately ! unfortunately . what might see for body changes is in spirit form - or astral , or headspace , or whatever else .
and most if not all things still take more work than just affirmation - magical work , but especially mundane work .

subliminals ... even more weird . not think entirely useless , but point is that ... brain subconsciously pick up on near inaudible messages , and this work as affirmations do , but with even less effort .
will be honest : think subconscious just , do not work like that . think use from these things come down to someone make with particular intent ...
which is to say , think idea would make sense most if each person that want subliminals , would personally craft these for self . or like , commission specific request from someone with better skill , but point is : custom personal tracks with very specific desire and intent , to focus and meditate on , then work that into bigger magical and mundane efforts .

as pretty as public subliminal tracks can be , not feel as if big enough effect to help toward goals unless know very exactly what want , and have realistic expectations ... which often not design for , and thus muddy intent .

if confuse , picture like this : 2 people stand over cauldrons, and both want make pretty purple water . one person have shelf with ingredients in all colours of rainbow , all neatly organise , and water is perfectly clear . other person have messy shelf - not even sure if any ingredient here is right shade of purple , might need mix something up , and ick what is that murky green thing ?

to work with tools of intent design by someone else can be something like that second example . not necessarily impossible , but can not always know what creator put in , or how to rearrange and interpret these pieces to make what really need . sometimes can take so much work to effectively use these tools , that might as well just throw out and start with something original .

as well as positive self talk effect , think figure out another reason subliminals seem to work for people - to some small degree anyway , mostly effects about appearance and health .

some subliminals come with tips like drink water and eat good fresh fruits .
hydration can do so much good for everything in body , and of course so can nutrients in fruits . if did not get enough before , then yes , more will probably make feel better and look healthier . not because of magic , just , because of basic body needs .