crosspost from tumblr .anonymous user ask :If you were to interact with somebody that worked with the Fair Folk in a religious/folk magic context, would you prefer to be treated closer to how they would treat other people of Earth, or treated as they would treat the Fair Folk they work with/worship?
There's a whole lot of rules about interacting with the Fair Folk in Irish and Scottish mythology (eg don't give them your name, don't accept gifts, etc), and I'm curious whether those rules being followed when interacting with you would feel validating, insulting, or something else.
kossai answer :ahh , fun one !
well , do enjoy when folks have some mindfulness , and occasionally make little jokes about friendly folk who break rules . but no , would not go out of way to truly ask anyone for same treatment . as long as nothing is done with intent to purposefully annoy anyone here or deny faeriehood and experiences , no need to worry .
some phrases , like " thank you " , can be so kneejerk to human reactions that to stop even in face of danger is hard unless swear off entirely . let alone when kossai do generally look like most other humans , and try to peacefully coexist . most faeries of kossai understand this is kneejerk reaction and not intentional slight , so no reason for such person to feel danger . in cases like simple phrases , might appreciate if people try to avoid , but know this is hard ask and will not expect , even if work with other faeries religiously .
( though sometimes also useful to point out when words easy to twist - at times this can be just fun and laughter , but other times for safety . especially if someone is new to faerie work , might not always realise how faeries could interpret and twist , and perspective of friendly faeries can be good to have . )
as for names , kossai do feel that name is more complex than some lore and legends give credit , so again - not in self danger , even if still ought to be mindful . ( and not necessarily for kossai reasons - even if single name could give ability to harm , kossai have rules and morals ! but , internet can be one weird place , and even physical public can have dodgy characters . )
biggest frustration is when people lie or break promises - but , well , think most folks generally agree and try not to do these - and when people rudely deny gifts . oh , will tell what , this one lady say - while kossai was still in earshot - that plan on throw away . such is peril of random gifts and glamourbombs , some people will reject - but seriously , at least wait 1 more minute to say that ! some people will really complain about rudeness of society , and then happily contribute . nonsensical .
but yes ! overall , generally just like anyone else . acknowledgment of certain rules can be fun and euphoric , but hard to ask of others , and would not want to register as direct religious figure of someone , even if unintentional or indirect .