stress tolerance and avoidance
Sep. 12th, 2024 11:12 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kossaiinspire by conversation from cohost , in which someone say morally wrong to avoid fundraiser posts , regardless of why - or even if provide other help outside fundraisers .
one thing which still annoy about is that people do not understand extent of what " emotionally or mentally fragile " can mean , like ...
people just see this as excuse , and yes , sometimes people who do not have deep , genuine need will use this to avoid " negativity " .
like that is whole awful thing , and big part of new age cults - that anyone who do not understand , or who maybe question things about new lifestyle , is just negative and need to cut out . some people , notably white people , do not want to see place in world and actually care about others .
but for some people , this is actually something which run deep and can even get hurt . strong sense of justice is not this perfect beacon for many people , OK . some people will burn selves to help someone else - of those people , some do not have impulse control to keep that in check .
as well , again , some people genuinely have fragile emotional and mental states - in that , even little things can turn into large scale meltdowns and overloads . this can be true whether or not have any means to help , but especially if not .
some people also have physical conditions which stress can trigger , to point of physical danger - like heart or general muscular conditions .
and that is another part which get people stuck on . not only can not imagine brain and body this fragile , but can not comprehend these stories of tragedy and suffer as possible stress . that only someone with privilege would say that , to avoid confront reality -
" so much more stressful to be in situation ! ever think about that ? "
but no one with these genuine needs actually deny this . there is privilege in ability to say that not have to live life this way , even when still hard in other ways .
not equal stress to read situation and live situation . but some people do not have stress tolerance to just read and think about at any time , whenever. some people do need to block things out and set aside time in order to plan , figure out , contribute . online filters do not inherently mean anything about whether or not will ever help , even if that help might look different .
like maybe not able to give money because of lack impulse control , or someone else control finances due to disability . but might be able to join in events , community programs , spread word .
one thing is for sure : someone who is in hospital from over stress heart or intense self injury from meltdown can not help anyone . sometimes have to help self to be able help others - can not pour from empty glass .
can not understand how that is selfish thing to say .
one thing which still annoy about is that people do not understand extent of what " emotionally or mentally fragile " can mean , like ...
people just see this as excuse , and yes , sometimes people who do not have deep , genuine need will use this to avoid " negativity " .
like that is whole awful thing , and big part of new age cults - that anyone who do not understand , or who maybe question things about new lifestyle , is just negative and need to cut out . some people , notably white people , do not want to see place in world and actually care about others .
but for some people , this is actually something which run deep and can even get hurt . strong sense of justice is not this perfect beacon for many people , OK . some people will burn selves to help someone else - of those people , some do not have impulse control to keep that in check .
as well , again , some people genuinely have fragile emotional and mental states - in that , even little things can turn into large scale meltdowns and overloads . this can be true whether or not have any means to help , but especially if not .
some people also have physical conditions which stress can trigger , to point of physical danger - like heart or general muscular conditions .
and that is another part which get people stuck on . not only can not imagine brain and body this fragile , but can not comprehend these stories of tragedy and suffer as possible stress . that only someone with privilege would say that , to avoid confront reality -
" so much more stressful to be in situation ! ever think about that ? "
but no one with these genuine needs actually deny this . there is privilege in ability to say that not have to live life this way , even when still hard in other ways .
not equal stress to read situation and live situation . but some people do not have stress tolerance to just read and think about at any time , whenever. some people do need to block things out and set aside time in order to plan , figure out , contribute . online filters do not inherently mean anything about whether or not will ever help , even if that help might look different .
like maybe not able to give money because of lack impulse control , or someone else control finances due to disability . but might be able to join in events , community programs , spread word .
one thing is for sure : someone who is in hospital from over stress heart or intense self injury from meltdown can not help anyone . sometimes have to help self to be able help others - can not pour from empty glass .
can not understand how that is selfish thing to say .