once again ask , is stim useful category ?

[kossai]

really do feel like not very useful category because what still happen is that people split these actions between " normal and abnormal responses " .
normal for someone to shout when angry , stim for someone to shake hands when angry .
normal for someone to cry when sad , stim for someone to rub face in blanket when sad .
normal for someone to take deep breaths when overwhelm , stim for someone to hum repetitive noise when overwhelm .
normal for someone to pace when need focus , stim for someone to bounce when need focus .

not really remove stigma of what other people see as normal or not - might try to categorise even those " normal " examples as stims , but those people will push back and not accept !
like stim as umbrella word just frustrate because not inherently address reasons , and this only add to confusion and at times to stigma . what " stim " is is reaction to some kind of sensory need - and those can stem from emotions , absolutely . emotions can overwhelm mentally , and often come with physical sensations or urges that need to balance and release .

but everyone have sensory needs , everyone can do any of these things - and feel sort of defeat purpose of normalise to insist on this word , especially if try to strictly categorise in any which way .
people will have different urges for different actions , and certain strands of neurodivergent people seem to display certain ones more - but is that really because " normal " people never would do those things ? or because there is perception of normal at all , which many of those people can simply better hide and perform within ? if truly break barrier between what is normal and what is stim - not categorise anything either way , recognise all as potential actions and reactions for anyone , teach everyone how to recognise sensory needs and personal reactions - would these become more common ?

kossai imagine so , anyway .