words serve experiences ~ not other way around

[kossai]

some people find important to have words which exactly describe all aspects of alterhuman and nonhuman identity clearly : " this one is very close kintype , this one is chosen link , this one is not fully kin but also not not kin ...? "

if this struggle take hold on mind , want to remind of something : words exist to describe experiences , not experiences exist to fill words .
in other words , if words do not fit right now , have freedom to say so , to not use specific words at all . if words might never fit , have freedom to abandon words and just be .

do not need figure out and prove exactly why and how each piece is important , where all come from , when and why start ... still can of course , but this is not pressure , not something that need do in order to have " valid " card .
if anyone do look down for not fully understand and have neat little names to describe what each part is , well , tell that person to piss off !

kossai is all faeries ... and many here have ties with aspects of nature . this is not something that try to describe with words like kin or heart type ... this is not connection that really have one single word . but also , not really need one - these connections can , do , and will exist regardless of put in word for others to understand .

and , really not need figure out if connection come from psychology , spirituality , both , or otherwise . free to explore what each possibility would mean , but again not require to know exactly .
might feel sure on something for years , and then something throw spanner in works and confuse everything . this is not sign that identity somehow fake or unimportant - yes , even if this piece do leave identity altogether . was still important at one point , and can honour that while grow through this journey of life .

just - do what feel need do . if want arrange pieces by intensity , then can . if want figure out exact incidents that possibly start , then can . if want neatly organise and figure out where in mind and spirit each come from , then can .
but none is absolute need , that have to do or else alterhuman police will hunt down .
and even if do some or all of these , not need make that journey public if do not want to ! can figure out and then keep secret if prefer that way .

identity is game of sorts , all these pieces that can play and knock around , fall in and fall out of ring . OK to just sit back and enjoy game , without worry about best strategy . :)