thoughts about behaviour and impulse
Feb. 22nd, 2026 10:56 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kossaiwonder if actually capture behaviour that want to capture , because frankly do feel very petty and rude impulses sometimes , but do try to contain even if in answer to someone who is rude . know there is problem of people who outwardly act like glittery pink flower , but then act horrible in private or with little provocation , and just . really do not want to be that !
even when someone is rude , even when have impulses to snap back and snark in return ... often can not help but step back and just ask things like why did that feel that appropriate , or to give firm , almost non-answers that ask for simple acceptance . some people genuinely have no idea that these questions rude , and need push in perspective - unfortunately some people will see all non-affirmative responses as inherently rude , because never learn how to take no , but some might at least be more receptive if spell out firmly without swear words and snark .
different story if someone say truly heinous things - will just block and cut off - or if dare to return and double down . though , funnily enough find so far with this approach , that never happen . never get any sort of apology , but neither get continuation of bullshit , so maybe can mark as win ?
... but of course , sometimes still do snark and whinge with friends - and know sometimes do fail to contain , or fail to handle things in ways that feel proud of . and know sometimes people read as hostile condescension because words can be very direct , but also can not help that , can only help actual behaviour - and do sometimes just wonder if actually succeed .
even when someone is rude , even when have impulses to snap back and snark in return ... often can not help but step back and just ask things like why did that feel that appropriate , or to give firm , almost non-answers that ask for simple acceptance . some people genuinely have no idea that these questions rude , and need push in perspective - unfortunately some people will see all non-affirmative responses as inherently rude , because never learn how to take no , but some might at least be more receptive if spell out firmly without swear words and snark .
different story if someone say truly heinous things - will just block and cut off - or if dare to return and double down . though , funnily enough find so far with this approach , that never happen . never get any sort of apology , but neither get continuation of bullshit , so maybe can mark as win ?
... but of course , sometimes still do snark and whinge with friends - and know sometimes do fail to contain , or fail to handle things in ways that feel proud of . and know sometimes people read as hostile condescension because words can be very direct , but also can not help that , can only help actual behaviour - and do sometimes just wonder if actually succeed .
